Why You Should Invest In The Sext

love, relationships, Sex Positive

Yes, sexting is a thing. Where you been waldo? Its true – people are becoming more erotically charged and taking the plunge into the world of digital sex. I sure do it, do you?

Sitting at home in my PJ’s on a lonely Friday night, chocolate wrappers to the side of me and my hair up in an unbrushed, messy bun looking like I just walked straight off the “Thriller” set. Not so seductive hey? But…oh and there’s a big, huge BUT. ..To him, I’m laying in my bed with nothing on looking like a damn sna-yack! Hot damn!

I ran a little poll on my Twitter (@sarahspencerxxx) to see what your thoughts were on the steamy sexting trend and 92% of those who got involved said they were actively a “sexter” with 85% of those admitting they send/receive explicit photos during a sexting session. Furthermore, 90% of people think that sexting is an enjoyable, healthy part of dating or being in a relationship.

Erm…why though?

Erm…why not?

It’s 2018 people! What would life be without a bit of fucking through your phone? Sending explicit messages has become a very normal and enjoyable way to flirt in this generation and I’m all for it! Not only is it sexy as hell, it can also be an exceptionally healthy part of your relationship.

I’ve had a long distance relationship where obviously, there isn’t as much juicy, poking going on as I would have liked, So I had to polish up on my sexting skills so we could both keep things exciting from either sides of the Atlantic.

Whether its to keep things exciting in a long distance relationship like me, or flirting with your partner whilst he’s at work, you can start building up on those fantasies over the phone, ignite that fire from within and just watch how steamy it gets when you’re next physical!

If things have turned a little stale in the bedroom recently, you can be a little reminiscent with your sexts in an attempt to try spice up that sex life!

Sexting can be nourishing to relationships. Whether its damn nasty or very vanilla, if sexting makes you and the other person feel good about yourselves – then that’s a good sign!

There is a huge link to sexual satisfaction and happiness in your relationship. It encourages attraction and that “feel good” factor.

Where do I even start?

Sexting is something that we’re all just expected to learn, right? One of them “Go with the flow, jump in at the deep end with your eyes closed, risk it all” type of things and see how you get on. There is no right or wrong way to do it, but with a little help you can definitely be more savvy with your sexting skills.

Being sexually suggestive is a great way to get things moving.

Time to set the tone: if things feel like they’re hotting up between you both and it’s going in the right direction when it comes to flirting, try asking a question.  Have you guys previously hooked up before? It’s a typically easy way to get things started. Casual lines like “Can you remember that time we fucked at that party?” or be sexually suggestive using innuendos – make it playful! Turn up that sexual tension gage a little, it’s time to tease!





Revved up – now what?

Once it’s clear that you’re both going straight down Sexting Street, you can start your sultry, sexual exchange. Talk about fantasies, favourite positions and if you’re brave enough – try some Role Play!

Sexting “Don’t Dos” 

This is to my fellas all around the world, listen clear – do NOT be bold right away and send a dick pic. It will more than likely make her cringe than it will make her quiver. She’ll probably bring them shutters down and then you’re well fucked. Unless you’ve both mutually agreed to pic swap, refrain from whacking out the old saveloy sausage – just for now!

Respect: Remember this isn’t just about you. Keep that appreciation for the other person on the phone so you don’t end up saying something too crude and coming off as disrespectful! Boundaries people, boundaries!

Be Aware of the risks involved with Sexting

Remember that once you send pictures and messages, they’re out there and you can’t retract them. Make sure that you trust the person you’re engaging with at all times and don’t send anything you may regret later on! Once it’s sent – it’s sent!

What are you waiting for?

Go get them fingers moving and have fun 😉

Love and shit,

S xoxo

I’m A Vajaculating Vixen!

Sex Positive

Ok. I’ve done it. I’ve finally mastered the art. I’ve done the studying, I’ve done the research. I’ve done it all. After month’s of hard work and nothing but sheer determination, I’m happy to announce that I am now a graduate, received my Masters in Vajaculation and can join all the other spiritual squirters worldwide in making the world a wetter place. Splash by Splash. Spray by Spray. Where’s my Mortarboard and gown bish?

I shall go forth in pleasure and seize whatever my platinum pussy shall desire.

I’m a human water fountain and I couldn’t be prouder.

However, it’s not exactly something to write home about so I’m going to tell you guys instead! I usually tell my mum everything but I’m not sure how I’d bring this up over Sunday dinner.

Me: “Mum, guess what?”

Mum: “What Sweetie?”

Me: “I learnt to squirt yesterday and I sprayed it all up my fucking wall.”

Naaaaaaaa. I’d rather not.

I’m So Pussy Proud

Proud is an understatement. Like seriously. Do you know how hard this shit is? I swear to you, I’ve spent months trying to perfect my vaginal squirting. I even speculated if it was even a real thing and began to feel like squirting was just a myth. Sort of like the myth about how “too much sex would ruin your vagina!” – completely bogus. But nope, I fucking did it my friends.

I’ve always been in awe of the girls on my Twitter timeline who are frequent squirters. That shit is so hot. I always thought it just looks sexy as hell and I’ve always wanted someone to say to me “Come and squirt on daddy’s dick.”…and now I can do the squirtation on da daddy’s dick myself.

 I’m a Vajaculating Vixen 

I feel like a squirting superhero right now. Don’t get on my bad side now, or else I’ll open my legs and squirt you in the eyeball with my Vag Venom.

Let’s take it back to the start of my Squirting Studies

So, after many a conversation with a certain male. Let’s call him Daddy. He knows exactly who he is. He had told me how much he’d love me to squirt for him. So we spoke about it a few times on the phone and he explained to me what I needed to do. First off, how sexy is that? Having a man that can teach you things about your own vagina.

Anyway, with a little bit of research on google I started trying and just couldn’t manage it. I just couldn’t get it right and I began getting really frustrated with myself. I almost gave up.

Until…we were having phone sex a few days ago. Now, I’ve got to tell you about daddy because I need you to understand. This isn’t no ordinary man. He is NASTY. Now, me being quite a nasty girl myself…it’s quite hard sometimes to find someone who’s on the same level of NASTY as I am. That shit is hard to find. But I tracked him down!

He got off work and I desperately wanted to make him cum. I didn’t even care about myself, I just wanted to make sure he was good. Like, Good Good. You know like…real gooooooooood.

But my God, Listening to this man breathe the way he does and knowing how much he was loving it. That shit turned me on something chronic and well…the rest was history.

It Isn’t Pee!

(Well not totally.)

I’m not going to lie. It used to really confused me before because I always thought it was JUST pee! I couldn’t get my head around it and there are definitely a lot of conflicting articles online about Squirting itself. Some say that it’s impossible for any liquid other than urine to be released from anywhere around the vagina, and other articles heavily argue about a gland called the “Skene Gland” and how it’s a result of “Female Ejaculation.” Some say that its a combination, mostly prostate fluid but with a little touch or urine.

The first time I actually squirted, I pulled out the responsible toy (a 9 Inch curved dildo – Perfect for hitting that Spot!) and it was dripping. I mean dr-ip-ping wet. I noticed that the liquid was white though. A real milky colour, the only way I can describe it is by imagining diluting milk with water. It wasn’t sticky or thick. It was just milky water.

Another thing I noticed straight away was that it smelt SUPER SWEET. My thighs were wet and it smelt sweet. Really sugary. I even smelt the wet patch on my bed sheets (I had given up at the thought of actually being able to squirt, so I was totally unprepared and made a huge mess!) and it also smelt really sweet. Sort of like sweet popcorn? It’s the strangest, sexiest thing ever.

What helped me achieve Vajaculation

  • Relax and take your time
  • Get comfortable and lay down a towel
  • Locate your G Spot (It feels slightly rigid, on the vaginal wall towards your stomach.)
  • Lubrication is key!
  • Use a curved sex toy so you can reach that angle.
  • Stimulate your G Spot (The more you stimulate, the more you may feel some pressure that feels as though you’re about to urinate. This is a good sign! Relax. You’re not going to pee!)
  • Push a little – Stay relaxed.

Personally, these are steps that helped me achieve Squirting Success. It may or may not work for you. Remember that we are all different, it may be easier or harder for you to achieve it. If you have a partner, experiment with him/her and play around a little and most importantly – just have fun!

Squirting is NOT about being sexually liberated

Don’t feel pressure to achieve female ejaculation. Yes, it’s exciting. Yes it may create a bit of a buzz. But it’s nothing short of a party trick. Gushing, Trickling or a full on squirt  – there is no right or wrong way to do it…and if you can’t do it. Then that’s ok too.

Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn’t.

Whether it’s climax or squirting, we are all different. We have different bodies that all do different things. Just enjoy the ride!