Yes, sexting is a thing. Where you been waldo? Its true – people are becoming more erotically charged and taking the plunge into the world of digital sex. I sure do it, do you?
Sitting at home in my PJ’s on a lonely Friday night, chocolate wrappers to the side of me and my hair up in an unbrushed, messy bun looking like I just walked straight off the “Thriller” set. Not so seductive hey? But…oh and there’s a big, huge BUT. ..To him, I’m laying in my bed with nothing on looking like a damn sna-yack! Hot damn!
I ran a little poll on my Twitter (@sarahspencerxxx) to see what your thoughts were on the steamy sexting trend and 92% of those who got involved said they were actively a “sexter” with 85% of those admitting they send/receive explicit photos during a sexting session. Furthermore, 90% of people think that sexting is an enjoyable, healthy part of dating or being in a relationship.
It’s 2018 people! What would life be without a bit of fucking through your phone? Sending explicit messages has become a very normal and enjoyable way to flirt in this generation and I’m all for it! Not only is it sexy as hell, it can also be an exceptionally healthy part of your relationship.
I’ve had a long distance relationship where obviously, there isn’t as much juicy, poking going on as I would have liked, So I had to polish up on my sexting skills so we could both keep things exciting from either sides of the Atlantic.
Whether its to keep things exciting in a long distance relationship like me, or flirting with your partner whilst he’s at work, you can start building up on those fantasies over the phone, ignite that fire from within and just watch how steamy it gets when you’re next physical!
If things have turned a little stale in the bedroom recently, you can be a little reminiscent with your sexts in an attempt to try spice up that sex life!
Sexting can be nourishing to relationships. Whether its damn nasty or very vanilla, if sexting makes you and the other person feel good about yourselves – then that’s a good sign!
There is a huge link to sexual satisfaction and happiness in your relationship. It encourages attraction and that “feel good” factor.
Where do I even start?
Sexting is something that we’re all just expected to learn, right? One of them “Go with the flow, jump in at the deep end with your eyes closed, risk it all” type of things and see how you get on. There is no right or wrong way to do it, but with a little help you can definitely be more savvy with your sexting skills.
Time to set the tone: if things feel like they’re hotting up between you both and it’s going in the right direction when it comes to flirting, try asking a question. Have you guys previously hooked up before? It’s a typically easy way to get things started. Casual lines like “Can you remember that time we fucked at that party?” or be sexually suggestive using innuendos – make it playful! Turn up that sexual tension gage a little, it’s time to tease!
Revved up – now what?
Once it’s clear that you’re both going straight down Sexting Street, you can start your sultry, sexual exchange. Talk about fantasies, favourite positions and if you’re brave enough – try some Role Play!
Sexting “Don’t Dos”
This is to my fellas all around the world, listen clear – do NOT be bold right away and send a dick pic. It will more than likely make her cringe than it will make her quiver. She’ll probably bring them shutters down and then you’re well fucked. Unless you’ve both mutually agreed to pic swap, refrain from whacking out the old saveloy sausage – just for now!
Respect: Remember this isn’t just about you. Keep that appreciation for the other person on the phone so you don’t end up saying something too crude and coming off as disrespectful! Boundaries people, boundaries!
Be Aware of the risks involved with Sexting
Remember that once you send pictures and messages, they’re out there and you can’t retract them. Make sure that you trust the person you’re engaging with at all times and don’t send anything you may regret later on! Once it’s sent – it’s sent!
What are you waiting for?
Go get them fingers moving and have fun 😉
Love and shit,