Let’s Celebrate Sex!

love, relationships, Sex Positive

Sex positive. What is it anyway? 

Mr Witty Wikipedia explains that Sex Positivity is “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging sexual pleasure and experimentation.”

See? That shit is damn healthy. Wikipedia is always right ain’t it?

For real though, promoting Sex education, safe sex, and ultimately the acceptance of being able to freely express oneself with regards to sex.

Are you open about Sex? Do you have an openness to exploration and discovery when it comes to sex? Do you talk about it openly with your friends and family? Do you understand that Sex is a completely natural part of life and that it can be enjoyed?

If you answered yes to those, then I’d definitely say that you’re Sex Positive. Congratulations Maestro. Comment below if you’d say you’re sex positive. I’d love to hear from you!

Being Sex Positive doesn’t even have to mean that you are actively HAVING sex. It doesn’t even have to mean that you’re having GOOD sex. If you understand the fundamental values in being able to freely enjoy sex, then…welcome to my Sex Positive Party. Even if you’re not necessarily Sex Positive, you’re still welcome. There is a place for everybody here!

There is absolutely so much more to life than Sex itself. You could absolutely get by in life without having it, albeit you could spend many frustrated years with a pair of blue balls and an aching vagina…but, yes it isn’t everything.

BUT…we have all this time here on earth and we were blessed with dick and pussy. It would be stupid not to take advantage of the tools we were given right?

So, what’s the point?

For years, Sex has been such a Taboo subject and it still is in so many different cultures in the world. I feel very lucky to live in a modern society where being sexually open is accepted. We have Sex brand adverts on the TV, we have sexualised TV shows here in Britain, we are lucky enough to have free Sex Education, we also have free Sexual Health services and treatment centres here in the UK thanks to the NHS.

Back in the 1960’s, the Sexual Revolution brought around a loosening on the Sexual Morals of people which encouraged sex to be set aside on its own from relationships and marriage. Non Marital Sex started to become more socially acceptable.

Nowadays, you don’t even have to date if you don’t want to. You can find someone to hook up with from your phone and not have to worry about commitment. Sex is no longer as big as a taboo as it used to be. It hasn’t quite broken the mould but it is far more acceptable than it ever has been.

Socially, we have come such a long way since the 1960’s to the point where it is no longer such a huge taboo. Why shouldn’t we be able to celebrate Sex Positivity in all its forms?

Experimentation Phase

Society as a whole, mainly in modernised cultures around the world, have broken stereotypical norms when it comes to settling down. People want to actually experience and sexually explore before committing to one person for the rest of their life. People are less likely to commit to one sexual partner during the entirety of their life these days and don’t usually want to settle until they’ve gone through their “experimentation phase.”

Open relationships are on the rise now too, with more people making marriage commitments but mutually agreeing on having separate and/or numerous sexual partners at the same time as being in a committed relationship.

There has been a huge shift in perception on what Sex should mean over the last 50-70 years or so but undeniably, society as a whole has become much more accepting of it and it has become rightly recognised that it is so much more that just simply reproduction.

I am Sex Positive and Proud 

I have a proud, positive attitude towards Sex. I feel comfortable with my own sexual identity. I know what I like, I know what I don’t like and I am fully accepting when it comes to the sexual behaviours and attitudes of other people.

Being Sex Positive means you understand the physical, emotional and psychological aspects involved with sex and intimacy. Being able to understand the importance of safe sex and being comfortable with knowing that sex is a healthy part of life and that it can be enjoyed and discussed.

It is acknowledging that we all enjoy different sexual experiences and that as long as consent is given, its accepting of that and accepting the sexual orientations of others without judgement.

This includes having respect for people’s cultures and religious values and that they may not align with my own views on sex, but still respecting them regardless and considering their morals despite my own views.

Ultimately, it is recognising my own sexuality as a 28 year old female and feeling empowered that I have the opportunity to express myself.


Respecting the rights of Sex Workers

Being sexually positive, also means that I understand and push for the right’s of Sex Workers and being able to respect the fact that they have the right to chose what to do with their bodies and that ultimately, it isn’t anybody’s business how one choses to make a living. Sex workers are required by law to pay tax. Sex work is work. Sex Work is a job. Sex Workers by majority, are there by choice.

It is also accepting the personal choices of Sex Workers and genuinely having the intelligence to understand that not all Sex Workers are trafficked into the industry and that the majority made conscious decisions to work within the adult community. It is understanding and differentiating between having choices and being forced, and that trafficked sex workers are not Sex Workers by cho460601008.jpgice and obviously therefore deserve protection but also at the same time protecting the choices of those who consciously did decide to work within the industry and felt empowered to do so.




Supporting the modern day SLUT

We all have an inner slut don’t we? Somewhere deep within us is a slut just waiting to jump out, eagerly awaiting the opportunity to grab a dick and start licking and sucking that baby like you’re slurping on a fuckin’ ice pole.

It is supporting the movement as a whole and squashing the misconception that because someone may dress a certain way or be sexually provocative in nature, it doesn’t mean they are actively encouraging sexual assault or to be branded as “less than” for being openly sexual.

Being sexually positive and celebrating sex in its sluttiest form. Respecting that men and women alike have the freedom to chose who they fuck, how many people they want to fuck and how they fuck (within legal boundaries and with consent of course.)

…but fundamentally, it is celebrating the choices and freedom that we have when it comes to sex. It’s freaking awesome.

My perception on being Sex Positive may be completely different from somebody else’s and this is only my opinion but this is it in the most basic of terms. How do you celebrate your own Sexual Identity?

I feel incredibly lucky to live in a society where I do have the choices and freedom to express my own sexual identity and to me, this is what being Sex Positive is all about.  I actively celebrate sex. Do you?

Do you celebrate sex?

I’d love to hear more about your opinions and your experiences with sex, intimacy and celebrating the Sex Positive movement!






Why You Should Invest In The Sext

love, relationships, Sex Positive

Yes, sexting is a thing. Where you been waldo? Its true – people are becoming more erotically charged and taking the plunge into the world of digital sex. I sure do it, do you?

Sitting at home in my PJ’s on a lonely Friday night, chocolate wrappers to the side of me and my hair up in an unbrushed, messy bun looking like I just walked straight off the “Thriller” set. Not so seductive hey? But…oh and there’s a big, huge BUT. ..To him, I’m laying in my bed with nothing on looking like a damn sna-yack! Hot damn!

I ran a little poll on my Twitter (@sarahspencerxxx) to see what your thoughts were on the steamy sexting trend and 92% of those who got involved said they were actively a “sexter” with 85% of those admitting they send/receive explicit photos during a sexting session. Furthermore, 90% of people think that sexting is an enjoyable, healthy part of dating or being in a relationship.

Erm…why though?

Erm…why not?

It’s 2018 people! What would life be without a bit of fucking through your phone? Sending explicit messages has become a very normal and enjoyable way to flirt in this generation and I’m all for it! Not only is it sexy as hell, it can also be an exceptionally healthy part of your relationship.

I’ve had a long distance relationship where obviously, there isn’t as much juicy, poking going on as I would have liked, So I had to polish up on my sexting skills so we could both keep things exciting from either sides of the Atlantic.

Whether its to keep things exciting in a long distance relationship like me, or flirting with your partner whilst he’s at work, you can start building up on those fantasies over the phone, ignite that fire from within and just watch how steamy it gets when you’re next physical!

If things have turned a little stale in the bedroom recently, you can be a little reminiscent with your sexts in an attempt to try spice up that sex life!

Sexting can be nourishing to relationships. Whether its damn nasty or very vanilla, if sexting makes you and the other person feel good about yourselves – then that’s a good sign!

There is a huge link to sexual satisfaction and happiness in your relationship. It encourages attraction and that “feel good” factor.

Where do I even start?

Sexting is something that we’re all just expected to learn, right? One of them “Go with the flow, jump in at the deep end with your eyes closed, risk it all” type of things and see how you get on. There is no right or wrong way to do it, but with a little help you can definitely be more savvy with your sexting skills.

Being sexually suggestive is a great way to get things moving.

Time to set the tone: if things feel like they’re hotting up between you both and it’s going in the right direction when it comes to flirting, try asking a question.  Have you guys previously hooked up before? It’s a typically easy way to get things started. Casual lines like “Can you remember that time we fucked at that party?” or be sexually suggestive using innuendos – make it playful! Turn up that sexual tension gage a little, it’s time to tease!





Revved up – now what?

Once it’s clear that you’re both going straight down Sexting Street, you can start your sultry, sexual exchange. Talk about fantasies, favourite positions and if you’re brave enough – try some Role Play!

Sexting “Don’t Dos” 

This is to my fellas all around the world, listen clear – do NOT be bold right away and send a dick pic. It will more than likely make her cringe than it will make her quiver. She’ll probably bring them shutters down and then you’re well fucked. Unless you’ve both mutually agreed to pic swap, refrain from whacking out the old saveloy sausage – just for now!

Respect: Remember this isn’t just about you. Keep that appreciation for the other person on the phone so you don’t end up saying something too crude and coming off as disrespectful! Boundaries people, boundaries!

Be Aware of the risks involved with Sexting

Remember that once you send pictures and messages, they’re out there and you can’t retract them. Make sure that you trust the person you’re engaging with at all times and don’t send anything you may regret later on! Once it’s sent – it’s sent!

What are you waiting for?

Go get them fingers moving and have fun 😉

Love and shit,

S xoxo