Sex positive. What is it anyway?
Mr Witty Wikipedia explains that Sex Positivity is “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging sexual pleasure and experimentation.”
See? That shit is damn healthy. Wikipedia is always right ain’t it?
For real though, promoting Sex education, safe sex, and ultimately the acceptance of being able to freely express oneself with regards to sex.
Are you open about Sex? Do you have an openness to exploration and discovery when it comes to sex? Do you talk about it openly with your friends and family? Do you understand that Sex is a completely natural part of life and that it can be enjoyed?
If you answered yes to those, then I’d definitely say that you’re Sex Positive. Congratulations Maestro. Comment below if you’d say you’re sex positive. I’d love to hear from you!
Being Sex Positive doesn’t even have to mean that you are actively HAVING sex. It doesn’t even have to mean that you’re having GOOD sex. If you understand the fundamental values in being able to freely enjoy sex, then…welcome to my Sex Positive Party. Even if you’re not necessarily Sex Positive, you’re still welcome. There is a place for everybody here!
There is absolutely so much more to life than Sex itself. You could absolutely get by in life without having it, albeit you could spend many frustrated years with a pair of blue balls and an aching vagina…but, yes it isn’t everything.
BUT…we have all this time here on earth and we were blessed with dick and pussy. It would be stupid not to take advantage of the tools we were given right?
So, what’s the point?
For years, Sex has been such a Taboo subject and it still is in so many different cultures in the world. I feel very lucky to live in a modern society where being sexually open is accepted. We have Sex brand adverts on the TV, we have sexualised TV shows here in Britain, we are lucky enough to have free Sex Education, we also have free Sexual Health services and treatment centres here in the UK thanks to the NHS.
Back in the 1960’s, the Sexual Revolution brought around a loosening on the Sexual Morals of people which encouraged sex to be set aside on its own from relationships and marriage. Non Marital Sex started to become more socially acceptable.
Nowadays, you don’t even have to date if you don’t want to. You can find someone to hook up with from your phone and not have to worry about commitment. Sex is no longer as big as a taboo as it used to be. It hasn’t quite broken the mould but it is far more acceptable than it ever has been.
Socially, we have come such a long way since the 1960’s to the point where it is no longer such a huge taboo. Why shouldn’t we be able to celebrate Sex Positivity in all its forms?
Society as a whole, mainly in modernised cultures around the world, have broken stereotypical norms when it comes to settling down. People want to actually experience and sexually explore before committing to one person for the rest of their life. People are less likely to commit to one sexual partner during the entirety of their life these days and don’t usually want to settle until they’ve gone through their “experimentation phase.”
Open relationships are on the rise now too, with more people making marriage commitments but mutually agreeing on having separate and/or numerous sexual partners at the same time as being in a committed relationship.
There has been a huge shift in perception on what Sex should mean over the last 50-70 years or so but undeniably, society as a whole has become much more accepting of it and it has become rightly recognised that it is so much more that just simply reproduction.
I am Sex Positive and Proud
I have a proud, positive attitude towards Sex. I feel comfortable with my own sexual identity. I know what I like, I know what I don’t like and I am fully accepting when it comes to the sexual behaviours and attitudes of other people.
Being Sex Positive means you understand the physical, emotional and psychological aspects involved with sex and intimacy. Being able to understand the importance of safe sex and being comfortable with knowing that sex is a healthy part of life and that it can be enjoyed and discussed.
It is acknowledging that we all enjoy different sexual experiences and that as long as consent is given, its accepting of that and accepting the sexual orientations of others without judgement.
This includes having respect for people’s cultures and religious values and that they may not align with my own views on sex, but still respecting them regardless and considering their morals despite my own views.
Ultimately, it is recognising my own sexuality as a 28 year old female and feeling empowered that I have the opportunity to express myself.
Respecting the rights of Sex Workers
Being sexually positive, also means that I understand and push for the right’s of Sex Workers and being able to respect the fact that they have the right to chose what to do with their bodies and that ultimately, it isn’t anybody’s business how one choses to make a living. Sex workers are required by law to pay tax. Sex work is work. Sex Work is a job. Sex Workers by majority, are there by choice.
It is also accepting the personal choices of Sex Workers and genuinely having the intelligence to understand that not all Sex Workers are trafficked into the industry and that the majority made conscious decisions to work within the adult community. It is understanding and differentiating between having choices and being forced, and that trafficked sex workers are not Sex Workers by choice and obviously therefore deserve protection but also at the same time protecting the choices of those who consciously did decide to work within the industry and felt empowered to do so.
Supporting the modern day SLUT
We all have an inner slut don’t we? Somewhere deep within us is a slut just waiting to jump out, eagerly awaiting the opportunity to grab a dick and start licking and sucking that baby like you’re slurping on a fuckin’ ice pole.
It is supporting the movement as a whole and squashing the misconception that because someone may dress a certain way or be sexually provocative in nature, it doesn’t mean they are actively encouraging sexual assault or to be branded as “less than” for being openly sexual.
Being sexually positive and celebrating sex in its sluttiest form. Respecting that men and women alike have the freedom to chose who they fuck, how many people they want to fuck and how they fuck (within legal boundaries and with consent of course.)
…but fundamentally, it is celebrating the choices and freedom that we have when it comes to sex. It’s freaking awesome.
My perception on being Sex Positive may be completely different from somebody else’s and this is only my opinion but this is it in the most basic of terms. How do you celebrate your own Sexual Identity?
I feel incredibly lucky to live in a society where I do have the choices and freedom to express my own sexual identity and to me, this is what being Sex Positive is all about. I actively celebrate sex. Do you?
Do you celebrate sex?
I’d love to hear more about your opinions and your experiences with sex, intimacy and celebrating the Sex Positive movement!