The Ultimate Guide To Perfecting Your Solo Orgasm

Sex Positive

Girls, it’s time to Cum!

Light those candles, put on some music, open a bottle of red, lay back and let loose!

Let’s get perfecting them solo orgasms ladies! But hey, let’s face it, sometimes nothing can actually compare to being fucked senseless by a sexy ass dude who knows a little suttin’ suttin’ in the bedroom…if you know what im saying. BUT there ARE times when you just need that “you” time you know?

Ok, maybe the candles and the music is a little OTT (although there has been a time when I’ve got so deep in the mood that a little Tory Lanez has pushed me over the edge, I’m not gonna lie. Try cumming to “Friends with Benefits” when that beat drops, because that shit is dope.) Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that you haven’t got to be OTT like me, but just find somewhere comfortable where you can really relax and be in the moment. Your pussy and you. The royal Va-jay-jay. It’s like love making for one, with a side plate of dildo and a bottle of lube. A great concoction if you know where to start.

I actually believe that solo play is therapeutic. Its good for the soul. Whether you’re single, dating or married, solo play can really benefit and intensify your sexual experiences with other people.  It can help perfect your sex life with partners if you really understand your own body. If you take the time to learn about your own vagina and really invest time in learning about what gets you going as an individual, along with good communication with a partner,  you really do have a chance here to amplify the senses you receive during sexual intercourse.

Pleasure – we all like it.

You’d be straight up lying if you told me you don’t. You deserve orgasms. Maybe the world would be a better place if we were all cumming more often. What do you reckon? Make pleasure a primary issue in your life.

I have quite often found that reaching orgasm has also been an incredibly breath taking stress reliever. Also, as somebody who suffers with migraines and cluster headaches, in recent months I have found that making myself reach orgasm will actually relieve and fully end a migraine. Now, I’m no medic or doctor but I have read before that an orgasm releases endorphins in the brain which is a natural painkiller. It has totally worked for me. At times, if I’m alone, I will just take myself to the bedroom and whack one out for a brief moment. and Voila.

So, are you having your solo time? 

Now, solo play doesn’t always have to involve toys. Yeah, toys can definitely spice up your solo time and make things a little more exciting but ultimately, if your mind is in the moment, your fingers can work a miracle, baby girl!

When you get some alone time, chill out on your bed or on the sofa. You haven’t even got to be lying down. Just be comfortable. Don’t feel ashamed to look for a bit of material online. You’re human. We all do it.  So if porn is something you’re into, then get yourself some good pussy play material and off we go.

Now, we’re on our way. Don’t rush, take this real slow because an orgasm that is staved off and waited out, is an orgasm that you’re not going to want to miss. There is so much sexual energy when you’re building up to a climax. Don’t be afraid to really take your time.

Remember that the majority of women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. I reach orgasm every time through sex or solo play, and it’s always down to stimulating the clitoris. I have never reached orgasm through just penetration alone although some women do actually reach climax from stimulating the G Spot. So props to you, if that works – because that shit is damn hard. I’ve come very close to cumming with penetration alone during sex but I think that was due to the intensified fucking that was occurring at the time. Like out of this world, heightened senses that I literally felt like I was about to explode all over his dick, but…a little rub here and there whilst he was fucking me and eventually that was what got me off in the end. My lord I get so carried away with my sexualised imagination…back to what I was saying.

So stimulating the clit is your priority. Using fingers or a vibrator – whichever works best for you. Gentle strokes over the clitoral hood, rubbing, pushing two fingers up and down the labia and bringing them back up again and circulating on your clitoris. This is time for you to really explore and get a good feel. What makes you squirm? Where are you sensitive? What gets your back arching?

Toys are a God Send

Although sometimes knowing where to start with sex toys can be a little intimidating,  don’t be put off by being adventurous. I will do another post for this. Also, don’t forget your lube. Lube isn’t just to keep things wet down there, it will also stop you from getting sore if you’re really going at it. Vagina’s are sacred, let’s take care of them ladies!

Lube is your friend!

Rampant Rabbits are a great aid in solo pussy play because they cover you from both angles. Literally. Sometimes they can even cover you from three angles. I got you covered, girl don’t worry.

Stock up on batteries and let the Rabbit do its thing, because with penetration and clitoral stimulation working its magic on your Va-jay-jay at the same time. You’ve got a one way ticket to your very own “Meg Ryan Orgasm.”

Dildos can work their magic just as well as battery operated toys. If you want to have more control over your orgasm, this is for you. There is so much more than just pushing it in and out. Dildos come in such a huge variety that there is definitely one out there that will push your buttons. I like mine thick, personally. Or curved. Work out what you like and get your technique perfected! Some of my favourite techniques are:

  • Deep – We all like being dicked deep. During solo play, I find that my curved dildos are the best for this technique. It makes it a little more “Je Ne Sais Quoi” but adds a little magic.
  • “Just the tip baby!” – Tease, tease, tease. Adds to heighten your climax.
  • Swirl – circulating your toy adds motion and touches a bit of everything.
  • The bad boy DP. Double Penetration – Talk about intensifying a climax. Be safe here and hygienic.

Just Get Comfortable

Like I said before, get comfortable. What might be comfortable for someone else may not work for you. Personally, I like laying down or riding my toy. Sitting down, facing down, laying on your side are all good ways to maximise self pleasure. Have a play about and see what angles work best for you.

If shower sex is your thing, girrrrrrl then take your sexy self into the bathroom, get butt naked and make sweet love to yourself. Get dirty and clean at the same time!

If you like your orgasm under the duvet, take yourself to bed and get hot and sweaty under those covers.

Being at ease will really allow you to let go so you can fully appreciate your solo play. Not forgetting that being relaxed will also make the muscles in your vagina less tense.

Get to Know Your Vagina

Get to know your vagina!

The best way to really perfect your solo orgasm is by exploration and having fun! Book a date for you and your vagina. Take a tour. Get off at all the stops and be a tourist for once. Experiment with lots of touching and get to know your friend.

Get those legs up ladies and wile away the hours!

Self Pleasure is normal

Remember that whether you’re in a relationship or single, solo play is really important. Remember that self pleasure is normal and that you’re human. People have been doing it way before we were around and will continue to do it way after we’re gone. It is common behaviour, even amongst people who have partners. It is a fulfilling, healthy sexual activity.


Love and shit.












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