Let’s Celebrate Sex!

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Sex positive. What is it anyway? 

Mr Witty Wikipedia explains that Sex Positivity is “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging sexual pleasure and experimentation.”

See? That shit is damn healthy. Wikipedia is always right ain’t it?

For real though, promoting Sex education, safe sex, and ultimately the acceptance of being able to freely express oneself with regards to sex.

Are you open about Sex? Do you have an openness to exploration and discovery when it comes to sex? Do you talk about it openly with your friends and family? Do you understand that Sex is a completely natural part of life and that it can be enjoyed?

If you answered yes to those, then I’d definitely say that you’re Sex Positive. Congratulations Maestro. Comment below if you’d say you’re sex positive. I’d love to hear from you!

Being Sex Positive doesn’t even have to mean that you are actively HAVING sex. It doesn’t even have to mean that you’re having GOOD sex. If you understand the fundamental values in being able to freely enjoy sex, then…welcome to my Sex Positive Party. Even if you’re not necessarily Sex Positive, you’re still welcome. There is a place for everybody here!

There is absolutely so much more to life than Sex itself. You could absolutely get by in life without having it, albeit you could spend many frustrated years with a pair of blue balls and an aching vagina…but, yes it isn’t everything.

BUT…we have all this time here on earth and we were blessed with dick and pussy. It would be stupid not to take advantage of the tools we were given right?

So, what’s the point?

For years, Sex has been such a Taboo subject and it still is in so many different cultures in the world. I feel very lucky to live in a modern society where being sexually open is accepted. We have Sex brand adverts on the TV, we have sexualised TV shows here in Britain, we are lucky enough to have free Sex Education, we also have free Sexual Health services and treatment centres here in the UK thanks to the NHS.

Back in the 1960’s, the Sexual Revolution brought around a loosening on the Sexual Morals of people which encouraged sex to be set aside on its own from relationships and marriage. Non Marital Sex started to become more socially acceptable.

Nowadays, you don’t even have to date if you don’t want to. You can find someone to hook up with from your phone and not have to worry about commitment. Sex is no longer as big as a taboo as it used to be. It hasn’t quite broken the mould but it is far more acceptable than it ever has been.

Socially, we have come such a long way since the 1960’s to the point where it is no longer such a huge taboo. Why shouldn’t we be able to celebrate Sex Positivity in all its forms?

Experimentation Phase

Society as a whole, mainly in modernised cultures around the world, have broken stereotypical norms when it comes to settling down. People want to actually experience and sexually explore before committing to one person for the rest of their life. People are less likely to commit to one sexual partner during the entirety of their life these days and don’t usually want to settle until they’ve gone through their “experimentation phase.”

Open relationships are on the rise now too, with more people making marriage commitments but mutually agreeing on having separate and/or numerous sexual partners at the same time as being in a committed relationship.

There has been a huge shift in perception on what Sex should mean over the last 50-70 years or so but undeniably, society as a whole has become much more accepting of it and it has become rightly recognised that it is so much more that just simply reproduction.

I am Sex Positive and Proud 

I have a proud, positive attitude towards Sex. I feel comfortable with my own sexual identity. I know what I like, I know what I don’t like and I am fully accepting when it comes to the sexual behaviours and attitudes of other people.

Being Sex Positive means you understand the physical, emotional and psychological aspects involved with sex and intimacy. Being able to understand the importance of safe sex and being comfortable with knowing that sex is a healthy part of life and that it can be enjoyed and discussed.

It is acknowledging that we all enjoy different sexual experiences and that as long as consent is given, its accepting of that and accepting the sexual orientations of others without judgement.

This includes having respect for people’s cultures and religious values and that they may not align with my own views on sex, but still respecting them regardless and considering their morals despite my own views.

Ultimately, it is recognising my own sexuality as a 28 year old female and feeling empowered that I have the opportunity to express myself.


Respecting the rights of Sex Workers

Being sexually positive, also means that I understand and push for the right’s of Sex Workers and being able to respect the fact that they have the right to chose what to do with their bodies and that ultimately, it isn’t anybody’s business how one choses to make a living. Sex workers are required by law to pay tax. Sex work is work. Sex Work is a job. Sex Workers by majority, are there by choice.

It is also accepting the personal choices of Sex Workers and genuinely having the intelligence to understand that not all Sex Workers are trafficked into the industry and that the majority made conscious decisions to work within the adult community. It is understanding and differentiating between having choices and being forced, and that trafficked sex workers are not Sex Workers by cho460601008.jpgice and obviously therefore deserve protection but also at the same time protecting the choices of those who consciously did decide to work within the industry and felt empowered to do so.




Supporting the modern day SLUT

We all have an inner slut don’t we? Somewhere deep within us is a slut just waiting to jump out, eagerly awaiting the opportunity to grab a dick and start licking and sucking that baby like you’re slurping on a fuckin’ ice pole.

It is supporting the movement as a whole and squashing the misconception that because someone may dress a certain way or be sexually provocative in nature, it doesn’t mean they are actively encouraging sexual assault or to be branded as “less than” for being openly sexual.

Being sexually positive and celebrating sex in its sluttiest form. Respecting that men and women alike have the freedom to chose who they fuck, how many people they want to fuck and how they fuck (within legal boundaries and with consent of course.)

…but fundamentally, it is celebrating the choices and freedom that we have when it comes to sex. It’s freaking awesome.

My perception on being Sex Positive may be completely different from somebody else’s and this is only my opinion but this is it in the most basic of terms. How do you celebrate your own Sexual Identity?

I feel incredibly lucky to live in a society where I do have the choices and freedom to express my own sexual identity and to me, this is what being Sex Positive is all about.  I actively celebrate sex. Do you?

Do you celebrate sex?

I’d love to hear more about your opinions and your experiences with sex, intimacy and celebrating the Sex Positive movement!






Why You Should Invest In The Sext

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Yes, sexting is a thing. Where you been waldo? Its true – people are becoming more erotically charged and taking the plunge into the world of digital sex. I sure do it, do you?

Sitting at home in my PJ’s on a lonely Friday night, chocolate wrappers to the side of me and my hair up in an unbrushed, messy bun looking like I just walked straight off the “Thriller” set. Not so seductive hey? But…oh and there’s a big, huge BUT. ..To him, I’m laying in my bed with nothing on looking like a damn sna-yack! Hot damn!

I ran a little poll on my Twitter (@sarahspencerxxx) to see what your thoughts were on the steamy sexting trend and 92% of those who got involved said they were actively a “sexter” with 85% of those admitting they send/receive explicit photos during a sexting session. Furthermore, 90% of people think that sexting is an enjoyable, healthy part of dating or being in a relationship.

Erm…why though?

Erm…why not?

It’s 2018 people! What would life be without a bit of fucking through your phone? Sending explicit messages has become a very normal and enjoyable way to flirt in this generation and I’m all for it! Not only is it sexy as hell, it can also be an exceptionally healthy part of your relationship.

I’ve had a long distance relationship where obviously, there isn’t as much juicy, poking going on as I would have liked, So I had to polish up on my sexting skills so we could both keep things exciting from either sides of the Atlantic.

Whether its to keep things exciting in a long distance relationship like me, or flirting with your partner whilst he’s at work, you can start building up on those fantasies over the phone, ignite that fire from within and just watch how steamy it gets when you’re next physical!

If things have turned a little stale in the bedroom recently, you can be a little reminiscent with your sexts in an attempt to try spice up that sex life!

Sexting can be nourishing to relationships. Whether its damn nasty or very vanilla, if sexting makes you and the other person feel good about yourselves – then that’s a good sign!

There is a huge link to sexual satisfaction and happiness in your relationship. It encourages attraction and that “feel good” factor.

Where do I even start?

Sexting is something that we’re all just expected to learn, right? One of them “Go with the flow, jump in at the deep end with your eyes closed, risk it all” type of things and see how you get on. There is no right or wrong way to do it, but with a little help you can definitely be more savvy with your sexting skills.

Being sexually suggestive is a great way to get things moving.

Time to set the tone: if things feel like they’re hotting up between you both and it’s going in the right direction when it comes to flirting, try asking a question.  Have you guys previously hooked up before? It’s a typically easy way to get things started. Casual lines like “Can you remember that time we fucked at that party?” or be sexually suggestive using innuendos – make it playful! Turn up that sexual tension gage a little, it’s time to tease!





Revved up – now what?

Once it’s clear that you’re both going straight down Sexting Street, you can start your sultry, sexual exchange. Talk about fantasies, favourite positions and if you’re brave enough – try some Role Play!

Sexting “Don’t Dos” 

This is to my fellas all around the world, listen clear – do NOT be bold right away and send a dick pic. It will more than likely make her cringe than it will make her quiver. She’ll probably bring them shutters down and then you’re well fucked. Unless you’ve both mutually agreed to pic swap, refrain from whacking out the old saveloy sausage – just for now!

Respect: Remember this isn’t just about you. Keep that appreciation for the other person on the phone so you don’t end up saying something too crude and coming off as disrespectful! Boundaries people, boundaries!

Be Aware of the risks involved with Sexting

Remember that once you send pictures and messages, they’re out there and you can’t retract them. Make sure that you trust the person you’re engaging with at all times and don’t send anything you may regret later on! Once it’s sent – it’s sent!

What are you waiting for?

Go get them fingers moving and have fun 😉

Love and shit,

S xoxo

Review: Leather Ball Gag by Honour.co.uk


“Honour -Turning Fantasy Into Reality.”

How damn sexy is that?

So the wonderful guys at http://www.Honour.co.uk sent me one of their gorgeous pieces to review. Honoured and excited, they let me chose from a few different products and I finally decided to go with their “Rouge Garments Black Leather Gag with Red Ball” and boy I was not disappointed.

Honour, a British based company, was established in 1988 and is now a world leading fetish fashion brand. They specialise in fantasy clothing, adult apparel, sex toys and specialist equipment. Their story started in their Waterloo shop where they focused on selling mainly Lingerie but since starting their website in 1994, business has boomed and taken them overseas.

They are constantly updating their website with diverse products to suit everybody who has a taste for anything erotic! They have a massive collection of kinky clothing with catsuits, latex dresses, PVC, leatherette, leather and lycra and they sell the most gorgeous fantasy pieces in corsetry, lingerie, costumes, hosiery, wigs, gloves and shoes!

They have equipment and toys to suit every bondage player – from amateurs to professionals. They have a huge selection of whips, spankers, restraints, hoods, strap-ons, blindfolds, sex toys, clamps, accessories and furniture which, according to their website will leave you “tied, teased and begging for more!”

On their website http://www.honour.co.uk, they have several options for contact. You can enter a Live Chat, call a UK Landline and a Freephone 0800 number, email them direct and even contact them via their social media. I don’t know about you, but I really enjoy the Customer Service experience when I shop online, it’s really refreshing to see a website that is actually completely open to being contacted. It allows me to trust a company and I can see from this that Honour really value their customer relationships. A huge bonus in my eyes!

Other benefits of shopping with Honour are that they also guarantee a secure and discreet delivery. Again, buying products from any Adult based website can sometimes be a bit nerve wrecking – especially if you’re a first time buyer and don’t know how its going to arrive or if you don’t live alone and would like to keep your sex life pretty private. I’m a pro at buying Adult products but I still panic that the Postman has “Super Sex Toy” X-Ray vision and knows exactly what a dirty, sex loving freak I am. There’s always that awkward exchange as he’s passing me my dildo package like he somehow knows what’s flapping around inside the box. But fear not, knowing that it arrives discreetly should put you at ease, expect nothing but a very boring box. It most definitely won’t arrive with the words “Doc Johnson Large Double Ended Dildo” plastered all over the box. The lovely people at Honour have got you covered and respect your privacy! They also offer Next Day and Free UK Delivery when you spend over £35 – I love me some free delivery! I’m such a tight arse when it comes to paying for delivery! Honour value their customers so much that they also offer a 30 Day Returns Policy.

Product Review

“Demand silence in this luxurious Rouge Garments Black Leather Gag with Red Ball, and adjustable buckled strap to accommodate all sizes.”



The “Rouge Garments Black Leather Gag with Red Ball” arrived quickly in discreet packaging. Upon opening, there was a little leaflet promoting “Pegging Classes” that you can enrol onto. It was wrapped in clear plastic and straight away, even without taking the plastic off, I could feel the distinct, high quality in the product itself.

This product is beautiful and well under-priced for the £18.99 that it sells for on http://www.honour.co.uk. I’ve seen some really tacky ball gags before and this was everything but tacky. The leather was pristine and the red ball looked so dominant in its bold, red colour. It fastened by a buckle which was easy to use and can be widely sized to fit well. It looks and feels very high quality.

The ball was a perfect size for me and I was able to fasten it easily alone – even with long stiletto nails! Bondage Bonus! The fit was perfect and was actually very comfortable all the way around. I paired this with my favourite Red Bottomed Sex Shoes and a black lace body-stocking. I felt so incredibly sexy and turned on. I love a bit of rough and tumble and I certainly need to be put in my place quite often – so this has quickly become one of my top 5 sex products right now!

If, like me, you enjoy being a serial screamer in the bedroom – then this is great if you also enjoy being submissive! This kept me as quiet as I could be. My jaw did begin to ache after 20-25 minutes but to me, this is all part of the punishment. The ball is soft on the teeth and the strap didn’t irritate my head or the side of my face at all (a common issue with ball gags)- it was very comfortable to use! You could literally wear this gag for hours and it wouldn’t irritate you.


Pure Erotic Excitement

If you’re looking to spice things up in the bedroom and venture down the BDSM route a little, then this could be a perfect start for you. This can add a whole new dimension to your sex life if you enjoy dom-sub fun! The entire experience was very kinky and I would fully recommend this product to anybody, whether you’re a beginner and looking for somewhere easy to start when it comes to exploring bondage or whether you are a pro! This ticked all of my boxes!

You can buy your own here at this link:


Go get Kinky!

I’d love to hear what sorts of toys you experiment with in the bedroom. Do you and your partner enjoy trying new things? How have your experiences with Ball Gags been? Comment below and let me know!

Love and shit,




I’m A Vajaculating Vixen!

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Ok. I’ve done it. I’ve finally mastered the art. I’ve done the studying, I’ve done the research. I’ve done it all. After month’s of hard work and nothing but sheer determination, I’m happy to announce that I am now a graduate, received my Masters in Vajaculation and can join all the other spiritual squirters worldwide in making the world a wetter place. Splash by Splash. Spray by Spray. Where’s my Mortarboard and gown bish?

I shall go forth in pleasure and seize whatever my platinum pussy shall desire.

I’m a human water fountain and I couldn’t be prouder.

However, it’s not exactly something to write home about so I’m going to tell you guys instead! I usually tell my mum everything but I’m not sure how I’d bring this up over Sunday dinner.

Me: “Mum, guess what?”

Mum: “What Sweetie?”

Me: “I learnt to squirt yesterday and I sprayed it all up my fucking wall.”

Naaaaaaaa. I’d rather not.

I’m So Pussy Proud

Proud is an understatement. Like seriously. Do you know how hard this shit is? I swear to you, I’ve spent months trying to perfect my vaginal squirting. I even speculated if it was even a real thing and began to feel like squirting was just a myth. Sort of like the myth about how “too much sex would ruin your vagina!” – completely bogus. But nope, I fucking did it my friends.

I’ve always been in awe of the girls on my Twitter timeline who are frequent squirters. That shit is so hot. I always thought it just looks sexy as hell and I’ve always wanted someone to say to me “Come and squirt on daddy’s dick.”…and now I can do the squirtation on da daddy’s dick myself.

 I’m a Vajaculating Vixen 

I feel like a squirting superhero right now. Don’t get on my bad side now, or else I’ll open my legs and squirt you in the eyeball with my Vag Venom.

Let’s take it back to the start of my Squirting Studies

So, after many a conversation with a certain male. Let’s call him Daddy. He knows exactly who he is. He had told me how much he’d love me to squirt for him. So we spoke about it a few times on the phone and he explained to me what I needed to do. First off, how sexy is that? Having a man that can teach you things about your own vagina.

Anyway, with a little bit of research on google I started trying and just couldn’t manage it. I just couldn’t get it right and I began getting really frustrated with myself. I almost gave up.

Until…we were having phone sex a few days ago. Now, I’ve got to tell you about daddy because I need you to understand. This isn’t no ordinary man. He is NASTY. Now, me being quite a nasty girl myself…it’s quite hard sometimes to find someone who’s on the same level of NASTY as I am. That shit is hard to find. But I tracked him down!

He got off work and I desperately wanted to make him cum. I didn’t even care about myself, I just wanted to make sure he was good. Like, Good Good. You know like…real gooooooooood.

But my God, Listening to this man breathe the way he does and knowing how much he was loving it. That shit turned me on something chronic and well…the rest was history.

It Isn’t Pee!

(Well not totally.)

I’m not going to lie. It used to really confused me before because I always thought it was JUST pee! I couldn’t get my head around it and there are definitely a lot of conflicting articles online about Squirting itself. Some say that it’s impossible for any liquid other than urine to be released from anywhere around the vagina, and other articles heavily argue about a gland called the “Skene Gland” and how it’s a result of “Female Ejaculation.” Some say that its a combination, mostly prostate fluid but with a little touch or urine.

The first time I actually squirted, I pulled out the responsible toy (a 9 Inch curved dildo – Perfect for hitting that Spot!) and it was dripping. I mean dr-ip-ping wet. I noticed that the liquid was white though. A real milky colour, the only way I can describe it is by imagining diluting milk with water. It wasn’t sticky or thick. It was just milky water.

Another thing I noticed straight away was that it smelt SUPER SWEET. My thighs were wet and it smelt sweet. Really sugary. I even smelt the wet patch on my bed sheets (I had given up at the thought of actually being able to squirt, so I was totally unprepared and made a huge mess!) and it also smelt really sweet. Sort of like sweet popcorn? It’s the strangest, sexiest thing ever.

What helped me achieve Vajaculation

  • Relax and take your time
  • Get comfortable and lay down a towel
  • Locate your G Spot (It feels slightly rigid, on the vaginal wall towards your stomach.)
  • Lubrication is key!
  • Use a curved sex toy so you can reach that angle.
  • Stimulate your G Spot (The more you stimulate, the more you may feel some pressure that feels as though you’re about to urinate. This is a good sign! Relax. You’re not going to pee!)
  • Push a little – Stay relaxed.

Personally, these are steps that helped me achieve Squirting Success. It may or may not work for you. Remember that we are all different, it may be easier or harder for you to achieve it. If you have a partner, experiment with him/her and play around a little and most importantly – just have fun!

Squirting is NOT about being sexually liberated

Don’t feel pressure to achieve female ejaculation. Yes, it’s exciting. Yes it may create a bit of a buzz. But it’s nothing short of a party trick. Gushing, Trickling or a full on squirt  – there is no right or wrong way to do it…and if you can’t do it. Then that’s ok too.

Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn’t.

Whether it’s climax or squirting, we are all different. We have different bodies that all do different things. Just enjoy the ride!





The Ultimate Guide To Perfecting Your Solo Orgasm

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Girls, it’s time to Cum!

Light those candles, put on some music, open a bottle of red, lay back and let loose!

Let’s get perfecting them solo orgasms ladies! But hey, let’s face it, sometimes nothing can actually compare to being fucked senseless by a sexy ass dude who knows a little suttin’ suttin’ in the bedroom…if you know what im saying. BUT there ARE times when you just need that “you” time you know?

Ok, maybe the candles and the music is a little OTT (although there has been a time when I’ve got so deep in the mood that a little Tory Lanez has pushed me over the edge, I’m not gonna lie. Try cumming to “Friends with Benefits” when that beat drops, because that shit is dope.) Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that you haven’t got to be OTT like me, but just find somewhere comfortable where you can really relax and be in the moment. Your pussy and you. The royal Va-jay-jay. It’s like love making for one, with a side plate of dildo and a bottle of lube. A great concoction if you know where to start.

I actually believe that solo play is therapeutic. Its good for the soul. Whether you’re single, dating or married, solo play can really benefit and intensify your sexual experiences with other people.  It can help perfect your sex life with partners if you really understand your own body. If you take the time to learn about your own vagina and really invest time in learning about what gets you going as an individual, along with good communication with a partner,  you really do have a chance here to amplify the senses you receive during sexual intercourse.

Pleasure – we all like it.

You’d be straight up lying if you told me you don’t. You deserve orgasms. Maybe the world would be a better place if we were all cumming more often. What do you reckon? Make pleasure a primary issue in your life.

I have quite often found that reaching orgasm has also been an incredibly breath taking stress reliever. Also, as somebody who suffers with migraines and cluster headaches, in recent months I have found that making myself reach orgasm will actually relieve and fully end a migraine. Now, I’m no medic or doctor but I have read before that an orgasm releases endorphins in the brain which is a natural painkiller. It has totally worked for me. At times, if I’m alone, I will just take myself to the bedroom and whack one out for a brief moment. and Voila.

So, are you having your solo time? 

Now, solo play doesn’t always have to involve toys. Yeah, toys can definitely spice up your solo time and make things a little more exciting but ultimately, if your mind is in the moment, your fingers can work a miracle, baby girl!

When you get some alone time, chill out on your bed or on the sofa. You haven’t even got to be lying down. Just be comfortable. Don’t feel ashamed to look for a bit of material online. You’re human. We all do it.  So if porn is something you’re into, then get yourself some good pussy play material and off we go.

Now, we’re on our way. Don’t rush, take this real slow because an orgasm that is staved off and waited out, is an orgasm that you’re not going to want to miss. There is so much sexual energy when you’re building up to a climax. Don’t be afraid to really take your time.

Remember that the majority of women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. I reach orgasm every time through sex or solo play, and it’s always down to stimulating the clitoris. I have never reached orgasm through just penetration alone although some women do actually reach climax from stimulating the G Spot. So props to you, if that works – because that shit is damn hard. I’ve come very close to cumming with penetration alone during sex but I think that was due to the intensified fucking that was occurring at the time. Like out of this world, heightened senses that I literally felt like I was about to explode all over his dick, but…a little rub here and there whilst he was fucking me and eventually that was what got me off in the end. My lord I get so carried away with my sexualised imagination…back to what I was saying.

So stimulating the clit is your priority. Using fingers or a vibrator – whichever works best for you. Gentle strokes over the clitoral hood, rubbing, pushing two fingers up and down the labia and bringing them back up again and circulating on your clitoris. This is time for you to really explore and get a good feel. What makes you squirm? Where are you sensitive? What gets your back arching?

Toys are a God Send

Although sometimes knowing where to start with sex toys can be a little intimidating,  don’t be put off by being adventurous. I will do another post for this. Also, don’t forget your lube. Lube isn’t just to keep things wet down there, it will also stop you from getting sore if you’re really going at it. Vagina’s are sacred, let’s take care of them ladies!

Lube is your friend!

Rampant Rabbits are a great aid in solo pussy play because they cover you from both angles. Literally. Sometimes they can even cover you from three angles. I got you covered, girl don’t worry.

Stock up on batteries and let the Rabbit do its thing, because with penetration and clitoral stimulation working its magic on your Va-jay-jay at the same time. You’ve got a one way ticket to your very own “Meg Ryan Orgasm.”

Dildos can work their magic just as well as battery operated toys. If you want to have more control over your orgasm, this is for you. There is so much more than just pushing it in and out. Dildos come in such a huge variety that there is definitely one out there that will push your buttons. I like mine thick, personally. Or curved. Work out what you like and get your technique perfected! Some of my favourite techniques are:

  • Deep – We all like being dicked deep. During solo play, I find that my curved dildos are the best for this technique. It makes it a little more “Je Ne Sais Quoi” but adds a little magic.
  • “Just the tip baby!” – Tease, tease, tease. Adds to heighten your climax.
  • Swirl – circulating your toy adds motion and touches a bit of everything.
  • The bad boy DP. Double Penetration – Talk about intensifying a climax. Be safe here and hygienic.

Just Get Comfortable

Like I said before, get comfortable. What might be comfortable for someone else may not work for you. Personally, I like laying down or riding my toy. Sitting down, facing down, laying on your side are all good ways to maximise self pleasure. Have a play about and see what angles work best for you.

If shower sex is your thing, girrrrrrl then take your sexy self into the bathroom, get butt naked and make sweet love to yourself. Get dirty and clean at the same time!

If you like your orgasm under the duvet, take yourself to bed and get hot and sweaty under those covers.

Being at ease will really allow you to let go so you can fully appreciate your solo play. Not forgetting that being relaxed will also make the muscles in your vagina less tense.

Get to Know Your Vagina

Get to know your vagina!

The best way to really perfect your solo orgasm is by exploration and having fun! Book a date for you and your vagina. Take a tour. Get off at all the stops and be a tourist for once. Experiment with lots of touching and get to know your friend.

Get those legs up ladies and wile away the hours!

Self Pleasure is normal

Remember that whether you’re in a relationship or single, solo play is really important. Remember that self pleasure is normal and that you’re human. People have been doing it way before we were around and will continue to do it way after we’re gone. It is common behaviour, even amongst people who have partners. It is a fulfilling, healthy sexual activity.


Love and shit.












Sex. Let’s Talk About It.

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Sex. Sexe. Love making. A good hard fucking.


Whatever you call it.

We all do it, so why aren’t we talking about it?

Salt-N-Pepa even told us to talk about it baby! So let’s talk about all the good things. Let’s talk about sex.

I guess this is a good time to introduce myself. My name is Sarah. I’m a twenty something year old, self employed girl from London, UK. I’ve been thinking about starting a blog for a while now but I wanted to wait until the time felt right. So, here I am in all my sex positive glory.

I genuinely believe in sex positivity and truly feel like there are thousands of other horny, dirty minded, sex obsessed souls out there who can help me bring some sexual enlightenment to this prudish world. I decided to start a blog, put mind to keyboard and type away because sometimes there is only so much “sex” your friends want to hear over a latte in Starbucks.

I’ve always been extremely sexual. From as far back as I can remember, I certainly have always had an interest in sex. I’m not entirely sure where it stemmed from to be honest but I know I’ve always felt very comfortable expressing my sexuality and being able to discuss it openly. Since Secondary School until now I’ve had a very sexual nature. By being sexual, I don’t just mean having a high sex drive or wanting to suck a lot of good dick (although I wouldn’t complain…) I just feel like I’ve always have a huge capacity for sexual feelings. I feel like I have always had a fairly good understanding and been able to emphasize the power of sexuality.  I guess, something like having that natural “Knack” at being sexy, feeling sexy, falling in love with sex, being comfortable to experiment, push boundaries, being confident in the bedroom and feeling truly fulfilled sexually, whether that is solo or with a partner.

Sarah Spencer

Sarah Spencer – Blogger at laidandbare.com

I love sex. Simple. and I’m really ok about that.

Sex is fucking awesome. Admit it.

So, why are we not talking about it? Cos…we really should be talking about it more. We should be more open about it, take a deep breath, spread our legs, open our minds and be bold! It’s natural after all right?

This blog is going to be a little peek into my world…sex, love, relationships, stories and experiences. The funny shit and the serious shit. Sex toy reviews, interviews and all that good stuff!

Let’s talk about it.

Love and shit.